Telling me I'm picky pisses me off.

One thing that really pisses the single girl off is being told you are too picky. I mean, are you supposed to be a desperado that goes out with any ugly, unemployed junkie? Is it wrong that you are self sufficient, have a support network and enough interests to make you not feel the need to scrape the bottom of the barrel?

I am just reading an article in the Sun Herald by Sam de Brito sent to me by someone that does think I'm too choosy called "The Myth of the Man Drought". I think I can prove otherwise.

De Brito reckons that us chicks, (and generally if we are single we are educated, intelligent, well travelled and interesting), are way too picky and that there are lots of solid good single blokes around. If I could deconstruct one of his single solid good bloke friends with him we would probably find that the friend has either got addiction issues, a beer gut at 30, or still lives at home.

This has happened to me all the time. If anyone ever questions my singledom, I ask them if they know any decent single men? They furrow their brow, they scratch their head, and they come up with nothing. At best, they say, "we know one single bloke, but we wouldn't do that to you. He's nice, but ..... and they go on to list some very weird flaws. If you disagree with me, try this exercise, how many single, decent, intelligent, stable, not ugly, nor obese men in their 30s or 40s do you know?

As I write out those adjectives, I'm reminded by de Brito and many others, who say that us chicks have an impossible list. I look after myself, occassionally self reflect on what kind of human I am and try to work on a some things I don't like, I am intelligent and not a complete dog. I'm not a psycho, don't have a sexually transmitted disease, am told I am interesting and I make lot of people laugh. I'm a responsible member of society. Is it too much to ask that I expect the same?

De Brito says, most single men just want a woman that they can be themselves around, who doesn't nag them to death and enjoys sex and ballsports as much as they do. I reckon this is just as an extreme list as a womans "clean cut, GSOH etc".

Does it mean a guy that constantly scratches his balls, who does not want to be asked to help around the house and expects his girl to have multiple orgasms even if he has a peanut dick, is impotent, or is a fanny phobic (see previous posts, especially about Bad Roots)? Or is it that de Brito is just saying that men have simple needs? This may be true. I've studied a lot about male friendships versus female experiences, and men really don't expect much, whereas women expect loyalty, kindness, support from their girlfrieds. Again, is that too much to ask?

The opposite of the guy that will be happy with whatever he gets, is the creme de la creme who are taking what they want(de Brito mentions this). The world is their oyster and they eat as many as they can.

My sister who has said I'm too picky was helping me with my profile on RSVP when she started making vomiting noises at what was available. Realising there are so many stunning women on it, she said, "why do women even bother?" I think she finally realised what us single chicks are dealing with. She found one guy that she thought sounded reasonable, told me to go for it, but said she wouldn't because he is too ugly. Maybe the next time someone says I'm too choosy, I'll just make them take a look at RSVP.

Whilst I do not expect a Brad Pitt or George Clooney, on RSVP you will see plenty of George Costanza's who expect an Angelina Jolie, one that's 10 years younger as well.

A friend feels that men are spoilt for choice these days. A SMH article many years ago said that the the problem with the man drought is that most of the single women were educated professionals, whereas a lot of the single men were unemployed living in the worst parts of the western suburbs. If you still aren't coming to my point of view, whilst checking out RSVP, take a look at the Australian Bureau of Statistics as well.

You may detect a bitterness in my tone, but could it be that the bitter and unappealing single man, instead of taking a good hard look at himself, can put all the blame on the fact that women are just too picky?